I thought I would share a couple things with my readers since my brother keeps commenting about these things and I want you guys to know my side of the story. Also, I probably will keep his comments up so you can see how retarded he really is. (I really believe if my brother was tested, Forrest Gump would be smarter)
When my Grandmother passed away in November 1996 the house was given to my Mom and Aunt. They held onto the house for another year before deciding to sell it. My ex husband and I were really interested in the house and decided to buy it. Because we were both in school the bank was not going to lend us the full amount. My Mom then stepped in and said that she really wanted us to have the house and told us the amount she would get from the sale of the house we could take off the price of the house. There was nothing said about us paying her back because she wanted us to have the house and said this was a gift. It wasn't until I came out to my parents in 2004 that suddenly my Mom thinks I owe her $25,000. If that were the case, technically I would only owe her half since my ex husband and I bought the house together. I think it's funny how none of this was brought up before I was gay.
When I graduated in 2002 with my masters degree my parents bought me a car. They paid somewhere around $12,000 for the car. It was a gift and I never was told to make a payment. When I came out to my parents in 2004 I suddenly owed them for the car as well. But my Dad said I owed them $15,000 for the car. I asked why they thought I needed to pay them $3,000 more then they originally paid for the car. His answer: I added interest. To me that pretty much summed up my relationship with them: it was and has always been about money.
My parents have always been able to use guilt with me to get what they want. Well, they can no longer use that I think that really upsets them. I have always deleted the comments from my brother because he seems to think it's OK to put my business out there with no regard. So now that it's all out there, I wonder what he will say now.
It's sad when your parents put a dollar amount on their relationship with you. A few years ago I emailed my Mom and asked her if she would like to have lunch to discuss our problems. Her email back to me said, "Only if you bring your checkbook." That email made it crystal clear to me that if I want any kind of relationship with my parents, their going rate is $40,000. That is very sad in my eyes.
My brother is a pathological liar. If his lips are moving, he is lying. I found his Myspace page and I was laughing my ass off. He said he graduated from high school and college. Yea, right. The funny thing is, I have the yearbook from the year he said he graduated and what a surprise to see his picture not in there. He also made it sound like he has a house at the Lake of the Ozarks, many boats and a recording studio. All of it is lies. I know he still depends on my parents to help with his rent, bills and raising his 4 sons. But reading all he said did give me a good laugh.