Thursday, September 14, 2006

Burden

So the dentist did not go as well as I had hoped. Two of the cavities they were going to fill are too far gone and they need to do root canals. Because my dentist does not do molar root canals I am being referred to a specialist, who by the way charges $135 just for the consolitation. I am sure that after the $135 he will just tell me the same thing. My insurance company said they will reimburse me, but this dentist makes you pay it upfront and then go after your insurance. So what was going to just cost us $600 more is going to end up costing an additional probably $1800.

Driving home from the dentist I felt a complete burden on Laura. We have a nice savings, but my dental work is taking up almost 1/2 of it. It just doesn't seem fair to put her through all this because of my poor choices in the past.

But teeth are an important thing that I can't loose at 33.

I can hear my Father saying, "I told you to take better care of yourself." And I feel like that 14 year old girl that feels like she has little worth and is just a huge burden on those around her.

7 comments:

Wendy and Karen said...

Dental issues just plain suck! In November of last year, I went to the dentist for what I thought was a routine cleaning. By April of this year, I had dental bills well over $2200 (insurance covered only $1000 of it), had 4 wisdom teeth removed, 2 crowns and 1 filling (...and a partridge in a pear tree!). And all this after taking good care of my choppers and seeing a dentist every 6 months!

I feel for you and know what a pain the whole thing is. But, as you say, your teeth are very important so what else can you do?

Good luck on getting everything completed. Hang in there!

- Karen

Lynilu said...

OK, stop it now! It is a pain in the neck to go through these things, but you're not a burden. Ask Laura is you are. I already know tht answer. As painful as it is at times like this, these challenges build the strength of the relationship. It can only get better!

yankeegirl said...

caroline,
It's not always a result of your actions, even if you went faithfully to the dentist the same things could've happened. Hang in there and don't blame yourself.

Kitty said...

Keep your chin up. Things will get better. You are in my thoughts.

Monogram Queen said...

Aw honey i'm sorry you are feeling so low. My sister had all her teeth pulled and dentures at a young age. You can't even tell.. I'm just sayin.......

Anonymous said...

Isn't hindsight always 20/20 and don't kids usually take rotten care of their teeth? I mean, as a kid you had no idea the impact not caring for them would have. Who does? I work with my kids on their teeth stuff every day - constantly - and even though they have heard it a bazillion times, they could care less about taking care of them now to save them from problems in the future.

It's just life. You never know until you know. Don't be so hard on yourself. We all make poor choices in the course of our lives.

Sorry about the dental stuff though - it sucks. I am a complete dental phobic. Eeeeek!!

Caroline said...

wendy&karen--yes dental problems suck. as much as we pay for insurance you would think it would pay for more. sometiems i wonder if i am better off without insurance.

lynilu--sorry you had to experience another one of my "poor me" moments

yankeegirl--it's just been the past 2 years that i neglected my teeth. i used to go every six months on the dot. tahnk you for the kind words

kitty--thanks, i always know the family is there for us

pattickae--we thought if false teeth would be the best thing at this point. probably cost a lot less

casey--my parents did teach wonderful dental care, but two years with no insurance causes a lot of problems.