My Mother emailed me last night. She was responding to an email I sent her 3 (yes, three) years ago. She was questioning my values. She was also questioning money that I do not owe them, but to them I do. She also said that I had not returned my Dad's call. I had no idea what she was talking about in terms of my Dad's call because I have not talked to him or received any messages from him.
In my email back to her I asked her if she would like to get together for lunch or dinner to discuss things.
Her response back to me was: "Only if you bring your checkbook".
Fucking unbelievable.
16 comments:
Wow. That's really shitty.
I'm sorry. :(
Only if you bring your checkbook??? As in pay me the money you owe me (but really don't) or I want nothing to do with you...ooorrrrr...as in You're buying dinner? Good grief! I've gotta tell ya, your family sounds like they're right up there with mine. I'm sorry. hugz.
Holy moly. Caroline, I'm so sorry you drew the short straw in the parent department. That's just crazy.
hell, yes! agree to meet for a meal and bring your checkbook-- you invited her to lunch, so pick up the meal-- nothing else.
Wowza! Did you respond? And she's still holding onto that e-mail from 3 years ago? Oh man!
I'd be 1/2 tempted to pay them the money that you don't owe them and let them continue to be the... well, you know what. But then if it will only be something else next time, it would be completely pointless.
LOL - and she is questioning YOUR values? Maybe she hasn't looked in a mirror recently.
That breaks my heart, Caroline.
Jehovah must be so proud of her. (Bitch)
What Syd said.
I have a sister that invited my EX and my children to my nephews graduation party - not me.
Maybe we should get them together? the perfect mother to go with the self righteous judgmental sister. Sounds like they're made for each other.
Caroline- don't waste your energy worrying about them any more.
Holy shit. I'm so sorry. You might win the crappy parents award of the week.
Oh wow. That's unbelievable. I'm so sorry.
casey--wouldn't you hate to have her conscience?
traci--um, no she was talking about more then dinner...sadly
sassy--i guess what doesn't kill you makes you strong..right?
anonymous--sadly she would never meet me for lunch or dinner...oh well..can't say i didn't try
sonya--i would pay them if it would mean they would shut up, but sadly they are talking about thousands and thousands of dollars. i think they kept a running list of everything they gave me since i was 18
syd--man did you make me laugh. you have the language down and what you said was exactly what i needed to hear tonight. thanks for the laugh and the smile
yankeegirl--i am sure the two know each other since you must know all members of the cult.
holly--sadly this is an award i not wish on anyone
shannon--it is pretty unbelievable. they have no idea what they are missing out on.
oh wow. I am so sorry that you have to deal with that :(
Holeeee Crap! You don't need them anyway. Their loss. :)
Very sad. Their loss. Not yours.
The snake occasionally comes out from under the rock, I guess. Lawdy (or should I say "Jehovey"?), I'd love to just smack her! If she weren't so self(ish)-centered she'd realize what a treasure you are.
OK, how about this ... send them a check for $1 and the memo line saying "Annual Payment On Reimbursement For Raising Me." Or perhaps "FYVM," as in "Fuck you very much"!!!
This is so petty and ridiculous. I can't believe your parents are doing this. To beat everything, you dad was accepting of you and your life course until your mother went into a tizzy. I'll bet he has never told her about THAT! Can we all say "PW"????
Sorry. I have a headache this AM, and my tolerance with THOSE PEOPLE is gone. Caroline, you really are a treasure. I'm sorry they don't recognize it, but you should know that I do. I've known you long enough and well enough to be certain that I'm very pleased and proud to have you as my friend. Hugs to you. :')
I have this tendency to completely badmouth people when they aren't nice to people I like, but I know they are still your parents, and if you didn't feel some sort of connection to them, you wouldn't put up with this crap. Still, I don't feel it's my place to go off on them. But if it makes you feel any better, know I'm thinking it. :)
I'm so sick of parents who think their kids owe THEM. It's parents who owe their children all the love and care they can give, because they CHOSE to have those children. My family was the same way, I'm surprised I didn't get the hospital bill for being born. Gah.
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