I noticed today on my counter that I have been getting a lot of hits from some odd website. I mean a lot of hits from this website, not just a few. What is disturbing is the article from this website that they are coming to my blog from. The article is here. The article talks about "executing gays to stop the spread of disease". I looked at the comments and found the gnat (aka ELF) is back and has linked my blog on his comment. Clink on the link and it's almost at the bottom and the comments were made by E.L. Frederick. What concerns me is he is pretty much putting a threat out there against my life and Laura's life.
This really worries me because I fear for the safety of my family. Why can't he just leave me alone. Even if he didn't do anything, he has proposed violence against us simply because we are gay and anyone else that is gay.
Any suggestions as to how to handle this situation would be more then welcome.
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The whole thing sucks if you ask me but I suppose it's part of the risk we all take in being "out" on the internet. I didn't read his comments as being a direct threat to you but more of a challenge for you to (as he put it) get your 'head out of the sand'. He thinks that gay rights and gay marriage are separate things and is saying you don't agree with his point of view. And furthermore, he appears to be saying that you should be grateful to live where you do since there are plenty of places outside the US that would condone violence against anyone who is openly gay.
The fact that he links back to your blog certainly exposes you to those who might wish to 'wage hate' on you but I don't think he made a direct threat. So...I don't think there's really anything you can do.
In reality, whenever anyone links to any of our blogs where we then link to others (like I link to yours and you to mine), we all run the risk of exposure to those who might want to use violence against us. It is unfortunate that this threat is out there at all and if truly there weren't prejudiced, discriminatory, religiously justified (in their own minds) people out there at all, we wouldn't have to worry.
I'd say the only real thing you can do is to keep living your life and expressing your truth and let it go. I think trying to pursue some direct remedy for this particular situation (like having him pull the link) may just raise more attention in your direction.
Hang in there!
WOW, that is really scary. I wish I knew what to tell you. I think if I were you I would start a new blog with a screen name, and an email address with that screen name, not post any pictures, do not make reference to where you live, do not use anyones real names, I don't know.
i'm sorry you have to fear. nobody should have to fear anything in life..... it's just not fair.
I am agree with what Karen & Wendy say.
This sucks though. I'm sorry.
I think we have all said this before, but what a jerk he is!!
I believe in my heart everyone is intitled to their own opinion, but I also believe noone has the right to trash someone else's opinion. Its freedom of thoughts & speech! I agree with karen & wendy, keep living your life how you want! I say piss on anyone who doesn't like how someone else lives!
Caroline, ignore the creep. I'm sure this is unnerving, but he has shown himself to be an ignorant ass already. He is a sniveling bully, not big enough to fight his battles without throwing others in the path to catch the blows. he obviously doesn't have enough words to argue his own point, so he makes you the target. As long as he gets a reaction, it feeds his sick need to point at others in order to take the focus off his own faults. He is going to wallow in slime, but let him do it without allowing him to pull you into the muck with him. I'm so sorry that there are people like him in this world. Peace.
Here's a thought . . . have you considered "closing" or restricting your blog for a while. Make it available only to those of us who are having healthy conversations? I suspect that after a while, he will move on to another poor soul, but at least you'd have peace. You can re-open it later on. Just a thought.
I have to agree with everything Karen and Wendy said.
I think he's using your as an example to illustrate his thought. I would definitely ask him to remove the link. Here's the other thing, you've already scrolled off the front page into the archives. As time passes you're far less likely to get hits from them.
I would imagine most of the hits are guys thinking they're going to see (read) about hot, naked, sex crazed lesbians (cause you know they think that's all we are - just like those fake little lesbian actresses in porn moves). When they see how normal y'all are, it's boring and they move on.
If you were to actually receive blatent threats, then you pursue that through the police, there are laws against making threats via electronic communication mediums.
You misunderstood the comment. I am not threatening your life. You don’t matter a pee-wit to me, so why would I bother threatening you?
There are people, like radical Muslims, that would kill you in a heartbeat because of your lifestyle.
Even though you and I do not like each other, I would spend a lifetime defending your right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness against such people.
You have a right to life. You have the right not to be discrimiated against. You have the right to happiness.
If you’ll reread the whole discussion, I think you’ll come to understand that I am not threatening you in any fashion. (Other than perhaps with a bit more blog traffic than you normally get, maybe you'll pick up a new reader who two who also think I'm the devil.)
Technically, I'm not even "outing" you to the world, as you did that over a year ago when you started the blog.
Since your blog is accessible the public, anyone... be it one of the insane Hate Groups like Westboro Baptist (who I Condem on a regular basis) or a radical Muslim; could view your site via google.
Best wishes to you and Laura, I hope things are going well.
Caroline and I had an extensive conversation regarding this particular comment and the link to the blog. Though neither of us believe we are in harms' way, the whole situation is irritating because of the numerous requests to simply go away. The blog where the link is provided is certainly not the traffic Caroline was expecting to attract with her everyday musings about our family. You'll note most of her entries are not so much political statements but more casual, mundane things common to anyone, regardless of sexuality. Yet, one of the great qualitites of this country is the freedom of speech--used responsibly. I believe in this day and age to disseminate this kind of message, violence against any group, without the humanitarian plea for tolerance is abuse. Spread the word of understanding rather than, "Hey, in some places you'd be killed and it's okay in that culture." To this am I suppose to say thank you for sparing my life and I appreciate the bit of tolerance you've offered to placate me. Hardly. Laura
Frankly, I'm surprised you got any traffic off the link at all.
I'm glad you haven't gotten any hate comments from it.
In retrospect I wouldn't of linked your site. Just considering the history I thought that I was only fair to let your point of view be represented.
I understand that you don't see it that way. No harm intended.
This whole thing is very confusing. One minute he says you don't matter a pee-wit to him, he doesn't like you, and the next minute he's wishing you well and almost(but not quite) apologizing. I wouldn't change anything you're doing blog-wise...he seems to be just an annoying gnat who needs to get a life (and a conscience).
Thank you all for your comments and suggestions. It's time to just start hitting the "delete" button.
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