tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post6421957571549130407..comments2023-11-02T09:21:33.082-05:00Comments on Mirror Images of Myself: The Truth...Part VICarolinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14476059033054104085noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-45654760263026883642008-01-23T20:11:00.000-06:002008-01-23T20:11:00.000-06:00Those elders were really doing some dangerous stuf...Those elders were really doing some dangerous stuff in stating, as if they knew, who God loves and whose prayers He hears. Wow. A quick read through the New Testament makes it pretty clear that was a load of crap. It sure does mess with your head and heart, though. <BR/><BR/>And I think I'm just emotional tonight, but I am sitting here crying for you and especially for your mom. The part about her grabbing your hand just broke my heart. She loves you so much and she's caught in this awful cult that is making her choose between her God and her daughter, probably by calling out the Bible verses that talk about leaving your children to follow God... Twisting the truth. I am so, so sorry this has happened. And I am so sorry she is hateful to you, but I understand it. They have messed with her mind so much, and if she didn't care about you she would be over this whole thing. But she is so angry at you for making this separation between you two, and in her mind this is probably a choice you've made, or at least acting on it and being out about it is a choice, and she is lashing out at you because the separation between you hurts so much.<BR/><BR/>I really have this sense, though, that she loves you SO MUCH, as any mother loves and cherishes her daughter. It is the evil of the cult doing this to her -- I don't believe it is indicative of how she feels for you.<BR/><BR/>For whatever that's worth! But I just get really strong feelings or ideas about other people's motivations sometimes, and so I thought I'd share in case it gives you any comfort.<BR/><BR/>(And not that it is right, or that you should hide your relationships, or anything! It's just the sense I get, based on similarities with my own mom and stuff and blah blah... I'll step away from the keyboard now!)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08385300459967135657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-84832264066380017792008-01-23T10:15:00.000-06:002008-01-23T10:15:00.000-06:00Caroline, it's so amazing that you share this stor...Caroline, <BR/><BR/>it's so amazing that you share this story with us. I feel bad for your family and for those who are so phobic that they have to make up lies about God not loving you or listening to your prayers. <BR/><BR/>The sad thing is that this thinking goes beyond the issue of homosexuality in our society. I have a person who has been very close to me for many years and he also happens to be black. My parents like him as a friend but would have a very hard time accepting him as a partner. The bottom line here is that we all have to see inside of ourselves and act on what feels best for us. I'm so happy you came out and stood up to your church and family.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01569351612820181636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-64634780872440970852008-01-23T07:49:00.000-06:002008-01-23T07:49:00.000-06:00It still boggles my mind that she could just let g...It still boggles my mind that she could just let go of her daughter like that. I could'nt imagine doing that to Madison. Ever. <BR/><BR/>Boy those elders and other cult members are in for a BIG surprise when they get to heaven.. wait...Monogram Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00201245389134780751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-77520325424433924612008-01-23T06:26:00.000-06:002008-01-23T06:26:00.000-06:00Just as in most negative interactions, what the el...Just as in most negative interactions, what the elders said to you was about them and not about you. Still, I know how difficult it is to take a stand on personal matters and to basically reshape one's paradigm. The more I read your blog, the more I admire your strength, bravery and kind spirit. *hug*B.E.C.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17692965288646024168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-91395077690122111802008-01-23T05:24:00.000-06:002008-01-23T05:24:00.000-06:00Those elders were full of shit, pure and simple. ...Those elders were full of shit, pure and simple. God loves everyone and God hears all prayers.SassyFemmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11825555906386002414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-1397700525232980602008-01-23T04:39:00.000-06:002008-01-23T04:39:00.000-06:00What a crap religion that is. What kind of human b...What a crap religion that is. What kind of human being has the right to tell ANY other human being that God wont answer their prayers? I mean honestly, what a joke. It is just as crazy and scientology in my opinion - all these people walking around, thinking they have it figured out while judging and making all sorts of rules for other people. <BR/>I know you are still going through the tough part, but man, it is just so OBVIOUS to me that you are the one who will rise above all of this.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01307762555108511788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-4189180479388023702008-01-23T03:17:00.000-06:002008-01-23T03:17:00.000-06:00I'm so sorry you were treated in such a horrible m...I'm so sorry you were treated in such a horrible manner, Caroline. That was really wrong of your church and your family as well. AND it tells the truth about who it is who does not love. Some folks like to lay everything off on God when THEY are the ones who are doing the things that hurt people. The elders did not love you and then they passed the buck to God. How convenient for them.Spilling Inkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13970126156464922867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-46909218062502385932008-01-23T01:24:00.000-06:002008-01-23T01:24:00.000-06:00I can't wait to hear what happened on June 10th 20...I can't wait to hear what happened on June 10th 2005....as that is my son's birthday.....thank you for sharing.....I think about your mom and I don't understand....but if you read my story...you will see I am so extremely the opposite....thats not a good thing either....balance is always the key.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-40606701532691126182008-01-22T23:02:00.000-06:002008-01-22T23:02:00.000-06:00I am so sorry about what your mom did to you. A go...I am so sorry about what your mom did to you. <BR/><BR/>A good parent wants their child to grow up to live a fulfilling, authentic life. We all deserve that.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing your journey with us. You are a amazing strong woman and I wish you all the best.<BR/><BR/>(P.S.: My brother-in-law and his family are JWs.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-61063469525651296392008-01-22T22:29:00.000-06:002008-01-22T22:29:00.000-06:00I still feel like god doesn't love me. I mostly wo...I still feel like god doesn't love me. I mostly wonder if there is a god now. You are being very brave my dear. Brava.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15229872.post-64715944222105536282008-01-22T22:25:00.000-06:002008-01-22T22:25:00.000-06:00I remember that I thought your mom/family would co...I remember that I thought your mom/family would come around, too. I still struggle to understand that a parent can just stop having a loving relationship with a child of any age. By now you know, of course, that JWs don't have the slightest idea about how God "works." None at all.<BR/><BR/>At this point, may I remind you that the SIL and your brother were actually just fine with your relationship with Laura, but were hiding that from your parents. It remained that way until numb-nuts figured out that he had a chance to be the "favored child" for the first time. So they soon did an about face, became the perfect (HA!!!) little family for your parents benefit! He is such a false, opportunistic person. spit, spit, bad taste in my mouth over that!Lyniluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04742585512852240355noreply@blogger.com